Why You Need a Vibrator
When Bella and I were 16 or so, we bravely walked to the back wall of our local Spencer’s and feasted our eyes on sex toys of every shape size and color.
It was an intimidating display to say the least, but we Catholic school girls were determined to hit this milestone.
It was time to buy our first battery operated boyfriends.
This past Christmas, over a decade later, Bella and I walked once again to the back of that very same Spencer’s. Puberty, experience, and the kind of confidence that comes with age made this walk a lot less embarrassing.
We giggled (because no matter how old you are, giggling with your bestie is the best), we shared stories, and we acknowledged that buying that damn vibrator a decade earlier was so important.
So, here I am now with an assignment from my editor (hi Bella!) to tell you why you need to march yourself into Spencer’s to get yourself one! Talk about an intimate article.
Out of respect for my future husband, babies, and family who read my articles, I’m going to keep this *ahem* spice free.
But, sex education is critical education and women deserve to take a space.
So without further ado, here are three reasons why vibrators are your friends and you should have one if you don’t.
Safety First
It’s normal for humans to be curious about their bodies. It starts in infancy and continues to develop as we grow.
When we refuse as a society to normalize this very normal behavior it can lead to some unhealthy choices rather than stopping the behavior altogether.
Ladies, this is your public service announcement that you should not masturbate using common household goods that maybe resemble something that you know feels good.
No fruits or vegetables, no hairbrushes, and, for fucks sake, don’t use an electric toothbrush.
Your health and safety are just as important as your pleasure!
Invest in something that will keep you safe and will probably feel better anyways.
Need help picking something safe? Start here.
You Deserve to Feel Good
We don’t have to whisper about it. Orgasms are for the girls too!
Across ages, studies show a persistent orgasm gap for men and women.
Anthropologists and psychologists and educators alike equate this gap to a lack of inclusive sex education and clinical practices, and a societal de-emphasis of mutual pleasure.
Boooooooo.
One of the most radical things you can do as a woman is be comfortable in your own skin.
And, as an award for your feminism, you’ll see stress decrease, sleep regulate, period cramps alleviate, and more.
Increased Intimacy & Better Communication with Your Partner
While buying and using a vibrator is about you, there’s an important side effect that is worth spending some time on.
Sex with a partner gets better.
Communicating with your partner can be tough in the most comfortable of circumstances, let alone when you’re in vulnerable positions.
If you struggle to articulate what you want or need to reach the big one, spending time with yourself or bringing some assistance when you’re together can be a huge help.
It makes those intimate moments even more special when you’re both fully in the moment, if you know what I mean.
Not to scare anyone in a relationship who doesn’t regularly reach the big O (which is also normal for some people!), but we know that when women who regularly have sex with their partner don’t achieve orgasm, it can reduce intimacy overall in the relationship, make sex a chore, result in a breakdown in communication overall, cause resentment, and increase rates of infidelity.
It’s about more than pleasure. It’s about connection!
And, for the girlies like me who daydream about being a mom, there’s conflicting thought, but some scientists theorize female orgasm during intercourse can help with conception. Who am I to argue with science 😉
This Valentine’s season invest in your physical and mental health with a vibrator. I promise you won’t regret it.
